On Retail Therapy

Life can be measured by the objects we own. But what about the things you needlessly buy to distract yourself that things are weird right now? My most recent purchases:

  • Alex Mill sweaters, button up, and jumpsuit - They never go on sale

  • New sneakers and leggings from Nike

  • 5 face reusable face masks from Etsy - Didn’t realize they were shipping from Lithuania until after I submitted my order, so it’s possible I may never see them

  • Contact-free thermometer

  • 2 reusable face masks from Hedley & Bennett

  • Mr. Holmes Bread Starter Kit

  • Lots and lots of groceries, especially fresh produce

  • Rebecca Atwood duvet cover and coverlet - I washed them as soon as they arrived and I’m in love.

  • 2 types of loose leaf teas

  • Books and puzzles for my niece’s birthday

  • Outdoor LED lamps for the deck

  • Treat pouch for Scotty’s walks

  • Cire Trudon Abd el Kader candle - also never on sale and supporting one of my favorite local shops

  • Steam mop

  • Dog hammock

  • Coffee beans

  • Trivet made from Chestnut

  • Japanese chopsticks made from mandarin wood

On Things I Won't Forget

What I Already Miss

  • Lazy Saturdays at coffee shops

  • Dining in at restaurants

  • Window shopping

  • Hugs. Won’t it be wild when we can touch each other again?

  • Dropping by… anything

  • Concerts and live shows

  • Dinner parties

  • Strong federal leadership

What I Don’t Miss

  • Traffic

  • Long lines

  • Indecision

  • Arrogance

What I Won’t Miss

  • Panic buying

  • Hoarding

  • Uncertainty

  • Hysteria

  • Misinformation

  • Over-scheduling

  • The worst of humanity

  • Greed

  • The jarring sensation of seeing a tightly packed group of people in pre-C19 photos, movies, and shows

What I Won’t Forget

  • Always having a little extra on hand: toilet paper, home cooked meals, a kind word, patience

  • How quickly people stepped up in the absence of leadership

  • Medical professionals becoming soldiers in wartime

  • Small kindnesses — a small wave from a neighbor, a socially distant smile in the grocery store aisle

  • Washing hands for 20 seconds, paying extra attention to fingertips, nooks and crannies, and the backs of hands.

  • The simple power of soap

  • Cuddling with my dog isn’t just a luxury — it’s downright essential

  • Gratitude. Today, it’s perfectly-cooked-can-see-every-grain rice; new orders from customers; hot water dispensers; bananas; Snoh Aalegra’s “I want you around”

  • Lulls and downtime

  • The joy of reading

  • Humility

Inspired by MR: “What I won’t forget: That New York is New Yorkers and nothing else.”

We’re always in need of a little perspective. Pause to have a little cry.

“How are you doing?” “Maintaining” Running out of ways to respond to “How are you”? I’ve got you.

Lazy dinner ideas. Just because you’re doing a lot of home cooking doesn’t mean every meal has to be James Beard-worthy. Some of my go-tos: kimchi fried rice; tamago scrambled eggs; ANY KIND OF TOAST; cheese and crackers a la Lunchables; cacio e pepe pasta, tinned sardines with a little mayo and diced pickles; omelets

Just learned that Dalgona coffee is a thing.

You can color the NYTimes now.

Reminder that Netflix Party is a Chrome extension that lets you watch Netflix and chat with your friends.

“Human life has always been lived on the edge of a precipice. Human culture has always had to exist under the shadow of something infinitely more important than itself. If men had postponed the search for knowledge and beauty until they were secure, the search would have never begun. We are mistaken when we compare war with “normal life.” Life has never been normal.” - C.S. Lewis, in a speech to Oxford students in 1939.

Nothing to see here.

Jenny Rosentrach’s Project, Pantry, Purpose series is wonderful.

Despite there being so many cancelled events, there’s still a lot to do. The world continues to be our oyster.

Don’t forget to complete the US Census. Everyone deserves to be counted.

On What a Time To Be Alive

Today I turn 31 during one of the most surreal events I’ve ever experienced, despite having lived through 9/11 and a deep recession. But life goes on.

Here’s a list of things I’m grateful for, in no particular order:

  • Languid dinners with my mom

  • Crying tears of laughter and sadness with my friends

  • The way Scotty sighs contentedly when he rests his head on my chest

  • Dad jokes from M: “What do Korean kids say instead of ‘yes dad’? K Pop”

  • House that smells like butter

  • Butter

  • London Philharmonic plays Rodgers & Hamerstein

  • Turkey Hill lemonade tea

  • People who are pretending as if they have the virus and staying inside and away from others. Disasters and crises have a way of bringing out the best in people.

  • Medical professionals who live up to their hippocratic oath despite dwindling PPE gear and resources. Here are some ways you can help.

  • Grocery store and pharmacy staff members

  • Delivery and mail people

  • Books

  • Libraries

  • Freshly baked bread

  • Bar Keeper’s Friend (if you know, you know)

  • John Mulaney

  • Handwritten letters

  • Dresses and skirts with pockets

  • That feeling when you wake up and realize it’s a Saturday

  • The pleasure of doing nothing

I read about a method to help you get back to the present moment:

Sit quietly and look around you for 5 things you can see and identify
Now identify 4 things you can hear
3 things you can feel
2 things you can smell
And 1 thing you can taste

Did it work?

On Distractions

“This week is for believing that the world can still be made new — a feeling that isn’t exactly optimism, but something close. You don’t have to believe that everything will ‘work out,’ that things will ‘be okay,’ that it’ll be possible to return to a state of peaceful equilibrium. you don’t even have to believe that the world you want can be achieved within your own lifetime. Right now, it’ll be enough just to have a burning conviction that a long-needed change is coming, and that you have a role in it.” - My horoscope this week.

There are a lot of dark and despairing places on the internet, but I have decided this is not one of them. Maybe COVID-19 will single-handedly revive the lost art of blogging? Only time will tell. In the meantime, here are some links of levity to temper the roiling ocean of uncertainty:

The Great Pottery Throw Down. Like GBBO, but for potters. See also The Great British Sewing Bee.

Harry Styles Tiny Desk Concert. Better yet, why not binge the whole series on YouTube?

Here’s a thinker to occupy your brain for the rest of the day: apparently not everyone has an internal monologue.

Panda cam.

What makes you swoon? I have a long list, but one of them is the word “cookie.” Whether it’s a kid or a grown-ass adult, there’s no way you can go hearing a person say “Can I have a cookie?” and not give them the whole damn box.

The miracle of moving a piano in NYC. Is it particularly useful information? No. Is it interesting in an esoteric way? Yes.

I read Kevin Wilson’s Nothing to See Here purely because of Taffy Brodessor-Akner’s review. It was a droll, quick read. The ending isn’t particularly inspired, but I don’t know how I could’ve written it better.

I wish I had a chance to meet Richard Geary.

Agnes & Muriel’s and All the Places I Have Loved You by Jessica Tilley Hodgman. “One time, I was described by a man I loved, who didn’t love me, as ‘oceanic.’ As in, ‘a little too much.’ I hung onto you, hoping we were just ‘a little too much’ enough for each other.”

This is as good a time as ever to freshen up your mending (or learn for the first time!) — how to sew a button.

STFU.

Why You Should Rescue a Dog by Eric Kim. “What a huge victory a little life is.” Eric’s writing made me choke up when I was copy editor of our high school literary magazine, and continues to make me F E E L. He’s a MONSTER.

Tiny victories. Sure things can and will go wrong, but what if they go spectacularly right? Call the friend you’ve been meaning to catch up with. Try that recipe you’ve bookmarked for weeks. Reach out to your neighbor to see what you can do to help. Tip extra to the food delivery guy. We don’t have to “make the most” of a pandemic, but we can certainly find ways to make it better.

Even if it’s just a little.

On Simple Pleasures

  • Fresh sheets

  • Walking through a grove of tea olive trees.

  • $5 dollar peony bouquets from Trader Joe’s

  • Strawberries at the peak of summer

  • Tomato sandwiches

  • A deep belly laugh — the kind that reverberates through your body and makes you feel simultaneously alive and close to death.

  • Freshly baked biscuits

  • Quiet evenings at home

  • A roaring fire and steaming cup of tea

  • A cherished pet sleeping soundly on your chest

  • Tomato and mayo sandwich

  • Air conditioning

  • Crossing an item off a to-do list

  • Perfect timing

  • The golden sheen of freshly baked rolls

  • My cousin’s kid telling me I’m the best cook she’s ever met

  • Accelerating onto an open road

  • Voices in harmony

  • The kindness of strangers

  • Crisp winter air

  • A space to call your own

Originally published on January 16, 2019 at Alwaysatodds.com.

On 5 Things

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5 things I’m currently digging right now:

  1. Season 2 of Friends From College on Netflix. It’s dark, it’s cringe-inducing, it’s funny, and I really love the costume design and styling. I watched episode 2 with Nancy and we were so obsessed with this white ribbed tank Cobie Smulders wore with a printed Proenza Schouler midi skirt — so much so that I tracked down the stylist for the show and DMed her (and she graciously responded!). In case you were wondering, the top is by The Row and it’s sold out now :( But truly, these people are horrible to each other and I’m here for it.

  2. My Oxford Year by Julia Whelan. If some AI algorithm downloaded everything I liked and turned it into a book, it would be this. I’m barely a chapter into it and I’m already in love.

  3. Single Parents on NBC. Co-created by Liz Meriwhether, who also created “New Girl”. It’s adorable. It’s hilarious. It’s a heartwarming show about families, only unlike This Is Us, you’re not emotionally cutting every week. Just watch it.

  4. Engraved calling cards from Terrapin Stationers. Instead of printing a bunch of cheap cards with information that may change or get outdated, I splurge on some nice cardstock that show just my name and I handwrite my contact details. People seem to really get a kick out of it, so I just ordered some new ones for work.

  5. Cashmere beanie by Meg Cohen. Because it’s fucking cold.

Originally published on January 15, 2019 at Alwaysatodds.com.